For me, being in love is a state that touches every moment of life
and it is not directed to a specific person. Being in love often starts with a powerful sense of connection to a specific person, but that is only the way the ego is hijacked into the relationship. Eventually, mature love which is very different than being in love is a practice of making the other the object of loving attention. In this sense making love (not in the sexual sense specifically) is the act and art of becoming fully vulnerable and naked with another who also commits to do the same with you and in that process a Third consciousness develops that teaches the two of you how to love. Being in love is unconscious; the decision to love is conscious and it is perhaps the most important work and it is an ongoing work.
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